The Chairs

June 28, 2016

According to the weight loss clinic’s flyer, the information session is:

To make sure you have the information you need, we require patients to attend an information session before their first clinic appointment. Sessions are hosted by our surgeons and give you a chance to meet them and ask questions. We’ll guide you through surgery requirements and discuss the risks and benefits of each procedure. You are welcome to bring family or a friend with you.

Looking back, I should have noticed the word: “require.” The weight loss clinic that performed my surgery used the word “require” or “requirement” more than they used the words “gastric sleeve.” I didn’t know, at the time, the information session would begin the relinquishing of my autonomy to repetitive requirements and bureaucracy. I want to believe that someday I will become comfortable enough with my weight loss journey to regain my autonomy.

I accepted this hour and a half long “session” at face value: a simple meet and greet with surgeons and a Q&A afterward. As I said before, this session began as I overheard a woman say to her friend, “Wow. You’re not as big as her.”in reference to me.

This comment didn’t shake me right away. Instead, I was more concerned about finding 2 empty chairs next to each other for us to sit in that were NOT in the front row. I found two extra-large chairs in the second row.

Looking around, I realized the entire room was full of these extra-large chairs. I don’t understand extra-large chairs. I will admit that on my pro and con surgery list, the pro list included eliminating the fear of breaking a chair and getting on a plane with confidence because I would not need more than one seat or a seat belt extender.

The only places I have seen extra-large chairs, such as these, have been in therapist and doctor’s offices, which already have sturdy regular chairs that I’m not afraid I will break. Plus, when you go back to actually see the doctor or therapist, you are given a couch to sit on by the therapist and an unstable, wobbly plastic chair by the doctor. So, why have these chairs at all?

I think the goal of the chair is show how politically correct and “accepting” of people who are morbidly obese the offices are. But, I think it does the opposite. When I am forced to sit in one of these chairs, because it is the last available one in the room, I feel like I have a giant, flashing arrow over my head calling attention to the fat girl, who is so big she needs a giant chair. In a passive aggressive way, the chair is fat shaming the person sitting in it. It makes me feel as though I am not “normal” or “good enough” to have a regular chair.

The other issue with the chairs is they are not engineered to be comfortable. Sitting in the extra-large chair at my heaviest weight, there was still a good 6-8 inches of spare room on the seat, and my husband’s had more. After the verbal fat shaming I received, I wanted to sit close to my husband. The sharp angular wooden arms were at just the right height to bite into my ribs when I leaned over. Even though there was physically more room on the chair, there was less useable room. The structure of the chair confined me, as if my obesity was contagious.

Later on, I would learn that the weight loss clinic had only these types of chairs in their waiting room and their examination rooms. Therefore, I could never avoid these fat shaming prison chairs.

The chairs and the “requirements” were the covert dehumanizing treatment that would  turn me from being a human being into only “a super morbidly obese.” The covert dehumanization made traveling from the information session to the surgery to today an act of sheer will, and I uncovered an unknown fount of resiliency I had no idea I had.

One comment on “The Chairs

  1. […] scale, much like the chairs at the weight loss clinic, is an exaggeratedly large size. It is double the size of the scale at my […]


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